The following are some general guidelines that can apply both at home and school:

  1. Be aware of your child’s temperament and respect his or her uniqueness.
  2. Communicate with your child by making points clear and simple.
  3. Listen to your child; hear his or her point of view.
  4. Set limits to help your child develop self-control.
  5. Be a good role model.
  6. Hold the student to standards, and he/she will rise to your expectations.
  7. Make all rewards internal not external.
  8. Catch your child “doing something right.” It’s too easy to focus on the “wrongs.”
  9. Engage, involve, and stimulate your child.
  10. Redirect your child from destructive, negative behavior;
  11. Be respectful, maintain unconditional love (Love is not a “bargaining chip”);
  12. Use humor to support and defuse.